Letters to Our Children: Stay Committed & Honest

Last month, I wrote a letter of encouragement to A.J. about his emotions and all the things he’s wonderful at (excuse the proposition at the end of the sentence). It’s part of a monthly blogging project, “Letters to Our Children” inspired by LaShawn Wiltz from Everyday Eyecandy.

This month, I’m telling him how surprised I was by his level of commitment to his “girlfriend” at his age.
Before you get bent out of shape, he doesn’t have a REAL girlfriend. He had a buddy last year in pre-k who he grew very close to. Then she moved out of state with her family. I thought that was then end of their “puppy love.” Boy, was I wrong!


Letters to Our Children

Dear A.J.,

You know mama likes to tease you about your “girlfriend” from pre-k.

I can tell you miss her and from what I’ve heard she misses you too.

It was fun to chat with her and her family on Facetime at the beginning of the school year. I’d thought you had moved on since a few other young ladies have expressed interest in being your girlfriend.

So when I asked you this week if you and “L” had broken up since she moved, I was so shocked by your answer.

It came up when you were asking me about your new favorite TV show, “Supergirl.” It was clear that Kara (Supergirl) was a little jealous when James ex-girlfriend came to the office.

We had a whole discussion about what and ex IS and about break-ups. (I never know what what of these topics were when I was 5 years old, but oh well.)

So I asked if you and “L” had broken up since she moved.

In true A.J. fashion when it comes to personal questions about you love life, you paused and got quiet.

Then you informed me that although you and “L” are broken up now because she doesn’t live in Atlanta anymore, you’ll “be back together when you see each other again.”

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And Mama gained so much respect for you.

There are grown men who take wedding vows but still can’t keep their commitment to their wives.

Black couples divorce more than white couples. Even your Grandpapa and Nana divorced years ago when Dada was a little boy.

I have faith in the young man that you are – that you will stay committed to whoever you date or marry (much LATER in life I hope).

I’m so happy to hear that you care about “L” enough to be faithful until you see her again.

You can teach a lesson about love to adults. Even when “L” was in your class, you didn’t talk much about her. You kept things private, like the two times she kissed you AND your “engagement.”

I heard about that from your friends and teachers.

Privacy about your feelings is perfectly appropriate because you should cherish your feelings and your friends.

I pray you stay as committed and honest your whole (love) life.

Love, Mama


There are more moving letters to our children to read. Head on over to MJ’s blog, Fab Haute Mama to read her letter to her little ones.

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  1. Awww such a nice letter! And yes, stay committed. Love Mr. AJ.

  2. Great communication between the two of you. I love that AJ can commit to his girlfriend. Is that where the phrase comes from “Are you as smart as a fifth grader?” Of course I am paraphrasing but we could all learn from you and AJ. Thanks.

  3. K. Elizabeth (YUMMommy)

    Kudos to AJ for already being able to grasp a concept that is often times so foreign to some adults. I know that we as parents are our children’s teachers, but they are our teachers at times as well. Here’s to hoping AJ and L will be reunited soon.

  4. Awww my little one lost his “girlfriend” when she moved last year and he will not accept another girlfriend because “T” is going to be his wife. YES! Stay committed 🙂

  5. I’m not READY!!! Pookah told me he had a girlfriend at the beginning of the year. The little girl’s Dad knows too so he keeps giving Pookah the eye LOL. He won’t tell me about their conversatations because he told me ” they are private Mama” LAWD!

  6. Awww this made me chuckle and let out an AMEN! AJ is on the right path to love. So sweet. And kisses. Oh boy. Z better not kiss anyone! Ugh.