Need a Mommy’s Helper? Here’s How to Hire Yours!

There are certain hurdles and problems in your parenting journey that seem insurmountable at times. Then you talk to another mom in your neighborhood, in line at the grocery store or in a parenting forum and she immediately has the answer you’ve been looking for! I’ll walk you through step-by-step how to hire a mommy’s helper. First, let’s start with a definition.

A mommy’s helper is NOT a babysitter.

A mommy’s helper is a “tween” or teenager who you know and trust –  who can play with your children or help them with homework while you ARE at home.

Got it? Next, let’s go through how to hire one so you can be more productive at home while you’re working, studying or completing a home project. Also, if you know someone who needs a mommy’s helper, use the social tools above to share this advice on Facebook or Twitter.


Need a Mommy's Helper

How to Hire a Mommy’s Helper

Create clear duties and responsibilities. If you child’s is 3-5 years old, you’d like a Mommy’s Helper who’s about 10 years old. Adjust it to be about 5-7 years older than your children. A Mommy’s Helper duties could include a craft, help with homework or playing a game with your child. They should be old enough to know when a scenario would require an adult’s attention vs. when to leave you alone and handle it themselves. I recommend keeping snacks that everyone can eat visible and easily accessible. This will also limit the amount of interruptions in case you’re on a conference call or working on a project.

Set a budget. For a teenager or tween, you can start with $5 an hour pay as a mommy’s helper. Or you may agree to a weekly fee for a set amount of time.

Post your ad for a Mommy’s Helper.  Start in your neighborhood so it’s feasible for the helper to get to your house. It’s much easier if they can walk across the street or around the corner. Share your “Mommy’s Helper for Hire” requirements in your local Facebook groups or on sites, it’s like Facebook for your neighborhood. Also consider hiring the older siblings of your child’s classmates.

Review applications. You can ask for applicants to write an email or essay on why they’d like to be considered, as well as ask for references from adults who know them well.

Interview/Meet & Greet.  Invite the candidates over for a play date with their parents, so you can all meet each other and see if you’re a good fit. Their parents may have follow-up questions for you since their child will be at your home for a few hours a week.


Video: What is a Mommy’s Helper?


Babysitting Swap

I have three babysitters in our family’s rotation who can care for A.J. depending on our needs and their availability. I’ve also considered starting a babysitting swap with other parents we know and trust. Instead of paying for sitters we could swap time watching each other’s children. Even with three sitters on standby, I find that sometimes their busy schedules get in the way too and I’d like the babysitting swap as a backup.

Comment below: Have you ever hired a mommy’s helper? How did it work out? Did this post inspire you to get started on your search?

About Joyce Brewer

Creator & Host of Mommy Talk Show. Emmy award-winning TV journalist.Wife & Mommy; Mom Blogger; Social Media Coach; Long Island, New York transplant living in Atlanta, GA. Follow Joyce on Twitter @MommyTalkShow Author of Use What You Know: A Business Idea Guide for Moms featuring interviews with mompreneurs who created businesses using their skills & backgrounds.

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  1. What a fantabulous idea! I have never thought of this.. we dont have many kids in our neighborhood but boy does this make me wish I did… Hopefully the “mommy helpers” will get it and be mature enough to do these tasks.. seems like they should be 😉

  2. I think this is such a great idea. I could use the help when I have deadlines and the kids are pulling me away!

  3. I was a Mother’s Helper way back in the dark ages. I babysat for the family but the 3 year old was already asleep when I came to sit. I was about 14. They asked me to go on a vacation with the 3 of them for a week. I had never babysat this little guy awake. Big mistake on all our parts. Food for thought!