Happy New Year! While many of you are jogging and working out, I admit I’m not…yet. Instead, I’m focusing on ways to change my attitude and outlook for 2014. So much of what we say determines how we look at things. I’ve shared with you my challenges with depression, even though I’ve had an amazing 2013. Going forward in 2014, here are 5 Things I’ll Stop Saying in the New Year! Stopping the negative speak can set the tone for the rest of your year.
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— Joyce Brewer (@MommyTalkShow) January 4, 2014
1. I’m too busy.
Instead, you can say what’s in this video:
We all have the same 24 hours in a day and some moms use them better than others. We find time to do the things we want to do. Other stuff goes by the wayside.
We spend hours each day on Facebook (or at least I do) or watching trashy reality TV. Cut one or more of those bad habits and you’ll find the time to do the things that don’t seem to fit on your calendar.
Believe me, if I stopped watching TMZ for a week and used that time to clean my house – it would be spotless.
But I need my celebrity gossip fix more than I need a spotless house.
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2. I’m tired.
This is my biggest mistake, honestly. I say it out loud and in my head about 50 times a day, especially since A.J. wakes every morning around 6 a.m. and demands breakfast.
Instead, you can say: I need to get energized.
That replacement statement switches the flip inside your head to find the energy you need. It may be taking a nap, taking a walk or eating a snack.
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3. I can’t afford that.
Instead, you can say: I didn’t set up an expense like that in my budget.
It’s a true statement and it reminds you to budget.
Maybe in a month or two you will be able to put a splurge like a manicure/pedicure at Natural Body Spa Brookhaven. Maybe by the end of the year, you can take a solo vacation to Los Angeles for #FiguringOut40LA like I did for my 40th birthday. Believe me, if it wasn’t for discount vacation sites like AirBNB that allowed me to rent a suite in a condominium I wouldn’t have been able to afford it either.
Hey, we all want expensive things that we can’t afford. Look for sales, shop a thrift store every once in awhile, grab a Living Social deal for more than 50% off online, in store and local services.
4. I’m not good/strong enough. For my blogging buddies, we make the mistake of saying I’m not big enough or I don’t have a big enough audience.
Rubbish, I tell ya!
Don’t get me wrong. I see opportunities going to bigger bloggers and I feel a twinge of “why not me-ism.” On the flip side, I’m grateful for the brands and sponsors who’ve come back to me repeatedly to help promote their brand online or manage their social media presence.
Instead, you can say: I’m capable.
Speak positively about yourself and your abilities.
If you don’t think your resumé or skill set is up to par yet, work on it. Ask someone for help. Take a self-help class. Buy a book. You can do it. Just focus.
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5. I’m too fat.
Geez Louise. Far, too many women say this to themselves. I’ve said versions of this. We talk about your thighs, our bellies and cellulite like they’re enemy number one. Cut yourself some slack. I am. I got on the scale at my OB/GYN’s office yesterday and I knew the three digit number wasn’t going to be pretty and I was right.
Instead, you can say: I’m working on my fitness and health.
Once I start feeling better emotionally, I want to find a dance class I like. On warmer afternoons, A.J. and I can take a walk with my Graco jogging stroller.
I wish you well. The way we speak to ourselves can really change our mindset and outlook going forward. If I can help you, please leave me a message on the Mommy Talk Show Facebook page.
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