I know a lot of you are working on resolutions for 2014, but I’m still focused on 2013.
Although it was a great year for me professionally with this parenting talk show and and other opportunities, I was still depressed for most of the year.
Yes. I suffer from depression even though I have
– an Emmy award-winning career in TV News
– a hot husband
– a funny, upbeat, intelligent and cute three year old son
– loving family and friends
– my health and a safe home
– thousands of social media followers
Depressed moms go to work.
Depressed moms go to church or synagogue.
Depressed moms go to play dates.
Depressed moms run their own businesses.
Depressed moms go about their normal day.
Just like I did.
In 2013, I got invited to events and conferences. And I was still depressed.
We celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary in Savannah. And I was still depressed.
I took a relaxing trip to Los Angeles, California for my 40th birthday. And I was still depressed.
I went to see a Chelsea Lately live taping and nabbed an exclusive interview with Van Lathan, a TMZ Tour Guide. And I was still depressed.
I was featured in an amazing campaign for Wells Fargo Bank where I got to talk about my Daddy’s until story. And I was still depressed.
I got hired by a marketing company to appear in their clients’ videos. And I was still depressed.
I sought help from my family doctor, but I went off the medication he prescribed because of the side effects (I know, I know). Believe me, pills don’t always work. You have to find a solution that fits you.
I went to therapy and it helped. But between time, travel and co-payments, it really adds up.
How did I know I was depressed?
I didn’t feel like getting dressed.
I didn’t feel like showering or doing my hair.
I didn’t feel like cleaning my house.
I didn’t feel like being social.
I didn’t look my best everyday unless I knew I was going to see people I knew. I was even caught in public wearing this:
All of the great things that happened and opportunities I received were overshadowed when a small problem, that in my mind became a big problem, swirled into a den of self-pity and hopelessness. Sometimes it would last for a few hours. Mostly, it lasted a few weeks.
When a mom is depressed it affects the entire family. My husband and probably A.J., too, have suffered right along with me. I’m sharing this with you because I know I’m not alone. I know millions of moms feel this way. The people who love us may say “Feel better” or even worse, “get over it” and it doesn’t help. So, I found some resources and books that may help you with your depression, or help your loved one. I’m talking to my doctor again and I’ll see how things go this time. That’s my only resolution for 2014.
Resources to Fight Depression
Web Md is an online resource to help you identify the symptoms of depression.
There’s also a lot of ignorance out there about depression. WebMd debunks the myths from the facts.
From what I remember after A.J. was born, I don’t think I suffered from postpartum depression. But I borrowed Brooke Shield’s book, Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression, from the library just to be sure I was OK.
Another resource is Katherine Stone’s site, Postpartum Progress. She shares a must-read “The Symptoms of Postpartum Depression & Anxiety (in Plain Mama English).”