Mommy Talk Show Candid Conversation with a TV Mom
How many times have you heard yourself say, “I’m waiting for the perfect time” or “Everything will be perfect when _____ (fill in the blank)”?
For me, it’s been way too often. From my online life, I look really busy and I am. But there are a few more projects and ideas I admit I’ve been dragging my butt on. I know better. We all do. When we fight through the stumbling block and end up on the other side, don’t we wonder “why did I wait so long?” I’ve explored this a bit with What Really Happens When You Procrastinate.
While You’re Waiting for the Perfect Time…
Every major decision I ever made, I look back and my only wish is that I’d made the decision SOONER. But I was waiting for the perfect time.
Once I’d lost a few more pounds…
Once I finally felt rested…(as if)
Once the weather got colder…or warmer.
I heard it described as PARALYSIS ANALYSIS.
Are you familiar with that term? It’s when you impede yourself and get in your own way due to overanalyzing and self-doubt.
Don’t get me wrong. You should analyze decisions and evaluate the risks, but not to the point where you make NO moves or decisions.
In the blogging and business communities I’m in, I see this all the time. My colleagues wait to launch a project like a book or e-course until their website is “perfect.” One more tweak and it’ll be perfect. One more day and I’ll be ready. Then days turn to weeks and months.
As time passes, the PARALYSIS ANALYSIS gets even deeper and more pervasive.
Will there ever be the perfect time to have another child? Will it ever be the perfect time to start dating after a divorce?
I’d love for your to follow me every “Midlife Monday”. If you’d like to catch up on the topics I’ve explored in the pass, head over to the Figuring Out 40 Category where you can read:
How to Be 40 and Fearless and the printable Write a Letter of Forgiveness to Yourself.
This is exactly what I suffer from! Thanks for putting it into words and putting it in my face for me to get over it already!
Oh I know I have paralysis analysis. I have been procrastinating on a few things for my blog all year. And I keep pushing back a few others things because I have an excuse. But I KNOW that I just need to get out and do it! Thanks for the push
You’re welcome and I’ll be checking on you!
What an inspiring post! I sometimes have Paralysis Analysis with blogging, esp. with “bigger” posts that I want to be just right. Thanks for posting this!
I think most people wait for the perfect time or wait to perfect things so much that time passes by. One thing about me is when I say I am going to do it I do it. I just jump right in that could be a problem and it may taper off as I get older but I like to do. I will perfect it along the way. When I first came out doing designs for people it was a mess but I kept going and kept going until now I am doing them like its nothing but I continue to learn and grow knowing that it’s not perfect but it’s getting there and as long as I am near it I am okay.
I have PA for sure I know. I’m always saying there’s not enough time when a couple hours of a one day would probably make the difference to get a task accomplished. Career change, well really career location change is first.
I think to some extent we all suffer from a little paralysis analysis! Overthinking something and preventing you own growth because we are scared. I always say dont be your first NO!
Love that @KiwiTheBeauty I may need to borrow it. “Don’t be your first NO!”
You bring up a good point! No one on knows a perfect time to have a child! I need to think about this a lot more and evaluate my circumstances. Great post! Thank you for sharing this!
I know so many who suffers from PA. I will have to forward this to the hubby.
I think a lot of people suffer from this. I know I have my moments. Have to just get out there and do what needs to be done.
There is never the perfect timing.
Procrastination…ugh! It’s so hard to deal with. But life has taught me that there is no time like the present.
OMG! would you believe that I am actually waiting on the opportunity to think a thing through. I know I need to act. Great quick post.
I definitely suffer from this! But I’m trying to get better because there is so much I’d like to do, and I know the time is now!
I’m going through this right now, with a decision regarding work. I feel the risks involved with doing what I’m wanting to do are too great, but my husband says they’re not if it means my happiness and success elsewhere. It’s so hard to move forward with scary decisions!
Oh I definitely suffer from Analysis Paralysis. I’m kinda in recovery lol. Sometimes we just have to get out of our own way & get it done!
Ugh YES! This is really me lately. It’s so frustrating when you feel like you’re your own barrier. It’s easy to blame things on other people but it’s harder to realize that you have to let yourself succeed. Thanks for this! xo
Love This! There have been so many opportunities and things I’ve missed because I was waiting but they weren’t. Thankfully I have learned to move even when fear tries to hold me back. I had to realize that failure doesn’t come from doing it but from not even making the attempt. Thanks so much for sharing this!